Change Isn’t Scary. Our thinking about change is scary.
I worked for a Fortune 200 company from 2009 to 2017 and the running joke was always “the only constant at Arrow is change”. I now understand the only constant in life is change.
When I say change, I don’t mean shifting and evolving priorities; I mean the variable quality of our thoughts and the fact that we live inside a world of thought.
We can’t see, hear or feel without thought informing our senses, and we have no way of checking whether or not our thoughts are telling us something that’s really happening or simply projecting false data which we interpret to be true.
This is why we can be sure that everything is going to be fine one moment and in the next, be equally sure that it isn’t – without anything actually changing around us.
This understanding serves by allowing us to see and understand that our challenge or issue is simply made of thought rather than made of our circumstances.
Have you ever thought you royally messed something up, proceeded to feel physically awful only to re-read the email, and realize you read the point incorrectly and then you immediately felt OK again?
That’s the nature of our thoughts in action – nothing changed from one minute to the next aside from our thinking because we’re only ever living in the feeling of our thinking.
This was real for me in 2017 when it took me roughly six months to take the first step to transition from my corporate role.
There was no doubt I needed to move towards something new yet I stayed because of how scary my thoughts felt about the change.
In a nutshell, I chose my perceived “safety” over my happiness and rationalized my circumstances by telling myself “at least here, you know what you’re dealing with…if you leave, who knows what could happen”.
I kept thinking stressful thoughts about the future, so of course, I spent months and months feeling stressed.
Staying where I was felt safer than the unknown of the future, but I now realize it wasn’t safety I craved, it was certainty.The truth is certainty is a guarantee for no one. Each one of us can only take the next best action and repeat. Click To Tweet
Now I don’t regret a thing because everything happened exactly the way it was supposed to happen however since my mission in life is to help others reimagine what’s possible then I leave you with this question: what if the challenge you are facing had nothing to do with your circumstances and everything to do with your thoughts about the circumstances?
What if you spent this next week thinking about the thing itself and less time thinking about your thinking about the challenge.
Let me know if this sparks anything for you!